The Power of Sobriety Breaks
The Slippery Slope of "Tuesday Night" Drinks
No one grows up wanting to be an addict. Most of us start drinking because it’s fun—social settings, holidays, or just because the sun is shining. But alcohol is a slippery slope. Even two beverages a day is enough to create tolerance and physical dependence. While I’m not "anti-alcohol," I am a firm advocate for treating it with caution.
Fun Fact: Did you know Rockefeller supported Prohibition partly because he’d invested in oil, and cars at the time could run on alcohol? Imagine a world where we fueled our cars with alcohol instead of our bodies!
Safeguarding Your Relationship with Alcohol
If you aren't sure where you stand with substances, the "Big Book" of AA actually suggests trying "controlled drinking." If you find you cannot maintain control, it may be time to step away. To stay in the driver’s seat, try these safeguards:
Eat before drinking and hydrate between every glass.
Set a strict "cut-off" time.
Practice "Sober January" or 2–3 week sobriety breaks to re-examine your habits.
If you find you cannot maintain a break, it may be time for a deeper check-in, and re-evaluate your goals and your relationship with substances.
My Journey: The Pendulum Swing
At one point, I realized my own relationship with alcohol was unhealthy. I tried 2-week breaks, then a month, but I kept finding reasons to return. Eventually, I committed to one year of sobriety, and that year turned into two. In that time, I was actively doing EMDR Therapy and using the 12 steps. This combination allowed me to process the why behind my drinking, not just the habit itself.
When I finally decided to have a drink again—on a girls' trip with close friends—it felt "right." However, I had to navigate the "pendulum swing" where my drinking increased briefly before finding a balanced center. Today, I drink occasionally, but I follow one non-negotiable rule: I never drink to cope with negative emotions. If I feel sad, angry, or triggered, the glass stays down.
The "Addiction Monster" vs. Self-Control
I believe addiction exists in layers—from casual users to those controlled by the "addiction monster." Sobriety breaks are the best way to see which layer you are in. If you find you cannot maintain a break, a sober life is likely the healthier path. Personally, I would rather be in control of myself than be controlled by a substance.
About the Author
Sarah Lacy, LPCC is an EMDR Specialist and Life Coach based in Rocky River, Ohio. She provides in-person support to the Lakewood, Westlake, and Bay Village communities, as well as Telehealth sessions throughout the state.
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